Build your child’s self-esteem through play

“A child’s bucket of self-esteem must be filled so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry.” – Alvin Price

A positive self-image is a wonderful characteristic to grow up with. Young children with high self-esteem feel loved, appreciated and capable, which helps to create a strong foundation for their development during the school years and beyond.

When children feel good about themselves and have a healthy sense of confidence, they may find it easier to forge friendships, be more willing to try new things and bounce back when life challenges them.

As a mom or dad, you no doubt see the best in your child. Here are five simple ways to show your little ones how much you love and appreciate them and their best qualities; as well as build their sense of independence.

  1. Let your child do it
    When you’re rushing to get ready in the morning, it is so much easier to put your son’s socks on for him, fasten your daughter’s coat buttons or quickly brush your little’s one’s teeth. If you do this every time, though, you are not giving your child a chance to learn and master essential life skills – and enjoy the feeling of confidence and independence that goes along with this. Rather be patient and let your child work it out for him- or herself.
  2. Provide choices
    By giving a little person a chance to choose between peanut butter and cheese for their lunchbox sandwich, Spiderman and Batman socks before pre-school, or two bedtime story options before lights out – you give them an opportunity to feel empowered. You’re teaching them that they have the skills to make their own decisions. This helps to prepare kids for the bigger choices further down the road.
  3. One-on-one time
    Spending quality time with your child gives you an opportunity to build stronger bonds with him or her, and provides a safe space for sharing any concerns or issues that may be affecting your little one’s sense of self-worth. Switch your phone to silent and take an hour out of your busy work or family schedule to do a one-on-one activity with your child. TOWER kids has a range of art and craft activity kits including felt art, paper weaving, paint your own jewellery and more, that make for hours of special time together – while teaching other skills that build self-esteem.
  4. Teach your child to be a confident problem-solver
    When your child is trying something new, or solving a creative or numerical problem, let him or her figure it out independently. Sit beside your little one and offer gentle encouragement or direction, but do not take over the task. When you child does manage to get it right, he or she will feel a sense of competence and pride. These are the building blocks of a high self-esteem. Puzzles are a great way to get your little one involved in an age-appropriate problem-solving – why not try this wonderful range of felt puzzles?
  5. Praise where praise is due
    Build up your child’s sense of self-worth by praising a job well done – whether this involves proactively stacking dishes next to the sink, sharing a special toy with a sibling or going to bed without a fuss. Be careful not to overdo it though – you want the praise to feel sincere.

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